Charity and Sylvia

Charity and Sylvia book cover

My new book, Charity and Sylvia: A Same-Sex Marriage in Early America, published by Oxford University Press, is now out in hardcover and on Kindle!

Here is an early review from Publisher’s Weekly:

“In this beautifully written and utterly absorbing love story, Cleves (The Reign of Terror in America) explores the lives of Charity Bryant and Sylvia Drake, two ordinary middle-class women who serve as a window on historical constructs of marriage, gender, and sexuality in late 18th-century and early 19th-century America. Both were born in Massachusetts, but in different towns, 11 years apart. Charity’s attachment to women was so blatant that after she turned 20, her father told her to leave the house. She worked as a schoolteacher, but was forced to leave jobs several times because of hurtful gossip about her relationships with other women. In early 1807, Charity moved to Vermont to stay with a friend, and there she met Sylvia. The two fell in love, set up housekeeping, and considered themselves married. Gradually, their family members and the residents of Weybridge did as well. Charity and Sylvia became integral to the community, attending church, running their tailor shop, and contributing to charitable endeavors. Most of all, Charity and Sylvia remained passionately committed to each other and refused to hide their relationship. Meticulously researched and brilliantly argued, Cleves has crafted an important work of history that resonates with one of today’s most public debates.

Charity and Sylvia is the intimate history of two Vermont women who lived in a same-sex marriage during the early nineteenth century. Based on diaries, letters, and poetry, among other original documents, the research traces the women’s lives in sharp detail. Charity Bryant was born in 1777 to a consumptive mother who died a month later. Raised in Massachusetts, Charity developed into a brilliant and strong-willed woman with a passion for her own sex. After being banished from her family home by her father at age twenty, she traveled throughout Massachusetts, working as a teacher, making intimate female friends, and becoming the subject of gossip wherever she lived. At age twenty-nine, still defiantly single, Charity visited friends in Weybridge, Vermont. There she met Sylvia Drake, a pious and studious young woman whose family had moved to the frontier village after losing their Massachusetts farm during the Revolution. The two soon became so inseparable that Charity decided to rent rooms in Weybridge. Sylvia came to join her on July 3, 1807, commencing a forty-four year union that lasted until Charity’s death. Over the years, the women came to be recognized as a married couple, or something like it. Charity took the role of husband, and Sylvia of wife, within the marriage. Revered by their community, Charity and Sylvia operated a tailor shop employing many local women, served as guiding lights within their church, and participated in raising more than one hundred nieces and nephews. Most extraordinary, all the while the sexual potential of their union remained an open secret, cloaked in silence to preserve their reputations. The story of Charity and Sylvia overturns today’s conventional wisdom that same-sex marriage is a modern innovation, and reveals that early America was both more diverse and more accommodating than modern society imagines.

15 thoughts

  1. Thank you for writing this book, Charity is my 5th great grand aunt and its just so nice to know that her memory is living on and helping others. Thank you 🙂

    1. Hi Lindsay, So great to hear from you. May I ask which of Charity’s siblings are you descended from? And, of course I have to ask, any documents in your family that didn’t make it into the archives?

  2. Rachel,
    I shall have to order this book soon. Already from the on-line samples you have helped clear up the mystery (to me) of how Grace (Turner) Hayward came to be buried one row over from the Bryant plot in the Snell/West Street Cemetery in Brockton, MA. If you are interested, I can send a PDF chart I compiled of all 91 burials there with connections between these tightly integrated families. You also supplied hints as to why such a disproportionate number of burials there were of young single women. There are a few other mysteries there I would love to also clear up if you can spare the interest. (I’m related to the Snells/Bryants through their Alden connections, etc.) I also photographed all the stones there with annotation. All available on request. It’s an interesting place in history.

    1. Hi William, Thanks so much for leaving this comment. I would be very interested in your PDF and any genealogical information you’ve put together. Indeed there were many connections between the Bryants and the Haywards, Charity seemed to have a mastery of all that information but it was a struggle to figure out as an outsider!

      My email is

  3. I’m reading the book now, and greatly enjoying it! I have a similar love story in my family tree, a 38-year relationship from 1894 to 1932. They didn’t leave behind such a rich documentary history, however, so I’m slowly piecing their story together with other evidence. Your wonderful book has inspired me to continue to work on this project!

  4. Please check out my daughter’s passion project about Charity and Sylvia on Instagram @twomaidenladiesmusical. She found inspiration in their story and, at 15 years old, she’s ready to give Lin-Manuel Miranda a run for his money with the second of two musicals she is writing. Also, I just ordered a hardcover copy for her Christmas gift to go with her electronic version.

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